Setting Boundaries

I just want to start off by saying this – it’s easier said than done!

We all know the word “boundaries,” but how often do we ACTUALLY implement them?

During the time that I was in the hospital and had given birth, we were still under COVID protocol so we couldn’t have any visitors. Which in the grand scheme of things, we were honestly really happy about. Looking back, I honestly couldn’t have imagined trying to manage visitors while nurses were constantly in and out of the room checking me and the baby, tits were hanging out 95% of the time, I was bleeding, tired AF and truly in complete shock and in a happiness bubble.

DeVonte’ and I were adamant about spending the first week together just us three. DeVonte’, myself and Maverick. It was pure joy and raw emotions of figuring out this new life of ours. It was beautiful, yet terrifying realizing we have this precious hunny that we’re in charge of raising and taking care of…like whattttt so overwhelming but so special!

I know that setting that boundaries can be hard so below are a list of helpful suggestions in order to set them for yourself:

1: Provide a gentle suggestion –

-       “I appreciate you’d like to come visit, but we’re getting settled and I will let you know when works for us.”

-       “Thank you so much for wanting to come visit! We’re all so very excited but we’re trying to find our groove so I will let you know when’s a good time to come by.”

-       “We know you want to see the baby, but at this time we need a few days to ourselves before we have visitors.”

2. Use your voice – say how you feel

3: Explain WHY you don’t want visitors right away

4: Know that this will piss people off and that’s ok

5: It’s YOUR life and YOUR baby – do what you feel is right for your family

6: Put your foot down and take no shit – you are going through a new phase of life and bleeding and leaking and dealing with all the raw emotions and shock. For others not to understand that, shame on them. It is your new life and you don’t have to let anyone make you do something that you’re uncomfortable with!